Have You Given Someone Praise Today?


Let me alter the question a bit.


Because I personally think that this new questions is harder to be answered, not because we don’t know the answer to it, but because it might have been in our minds.

Yes. It might have just sit there quietly all this time as we think that the answer would lead us to guilt.

How many times have you given someone critique this week? This month?

What is Critique?

Critique (as outlined in Wikipedia) is a method of disciplined, systematic analysis of a written or oral discourse. Although critique is commonly understood as fault finding and negative judgment, it can also involve merit recognition, and in the philosophical tradition it also means a methodical practice of doubt.

Simply put, critique might be a thoughtful comment, aimed to improve the state of the subject. It might also be an ignorant comment, either in the way it is communicated or in its approach to issue.

… So What? Continue reading “Have You Given Someone Praise Today?”

Are You Still Friends With Them, The Ex-Colleagues?


“Does it mean my friends in my current workplace will not be my friends anymore? (Or are we friends to begin with?)

This question has been bugging me for a few weeks, but it’s only now that I could get my hands on it.

My initial hypothesis on this question is that our current colleagues, the ones we interact mostly with, will later be our friends.

Why? Continue reading “Are You Still Friends With Them, The Ex-Colleagues?”

Feel Like Punching Someone in The Workplace? Read On.

Can work be assumed as a major part of our life?

We spend a third of our life staying in the same space as our colleagues – some more familiar than others due to our own job nature.

If yes, as in all things in life, neutral condition hardly exists. At some points, it will – as everything would try reaching for equilibrium (fail, and it will crumble to pieces).

Only a few years into careers, I have encountered many new experiences, some good and some others nearly good. The experiences usually come from dealing with various tasks, projects, alongside different ‘partners’ (stakeholders, either team mates, cross divisional peers, leader, or vendors, etc.).

With the various kind of people existing, we are bound to bump into the ‘likable’ and ‘unlikable’ partners. Continue reading “Feel Like Punching Someone in The Workplace? Read On.”

Via Negativa

The Choices – Orin Zebest https://www.flickr.com/photos/orinrobertjohn/114430223

“It’s simple. I removed everything that is not David.” – Michelangelo’s answer when asked about how he could have created the masterpiece of all masterpieces, the statue of David.

What is ‘Via Negativa’, a term I had only recently known yet had often used when dealing with uncertainty or ambiguous situation?

It definitely has nothing to do with certainty or a definite condition (as the question imply). There, we have just answer the question using via negative approach.

In David’s case, Michelangelo removed away anything that is not David. Continue reading “Via Negativa”

Elastic Heart – A feeling often felt and left at being felt?

Elastic Heart – A feeling often felt and left at being felt?

There is a saying that when you don’t expect you won’t get hurt. However, a friend of mine, an unholy human being, couldn’t manage to have no hope, whether the hope for better living, better environment, or better human relationship.

With an expectation that I would be able to help her go through the depression she has been feeling for years, she told me a story, a story shared but never truly told.

A year has passed, the sound of the images I had captured in my mind is still buzzing, like it was just yesterday.

I was having uneasiness every morning at the office (the internet said I was having butterflies in my belly). It happened for a few months before I went to a psychologist, Continue reading “Elastic Heart – A feeling often felt and left at being felt?”